How to Date Night with two small children, an anxious dog, and a limited budget. Is it even possible. Why yes, yes it is. The only difference is that you have to be willing to have a new perspective of things. So, what do you do? What are the options? Is it possible? Let’s find out how to date night at home when you have small children.
My husband and I have been married for almost 9 years, and together 11. Truly it feels like weeks. And no, our marriage is not easy. We fight and argue a lot. Sometimes I feel that if I have to pick up just one more sock I may scream. But you know what. Right now as I am writing he is sitting here painting my toenails.
Yes! This wonderful man that drives me crazy, also makes me happy. Our life is pretty crazy right now. We have 2 small boys, 2 dogs and all the stuff that comes with that. We try to go out on dates every chance we get, but as all moms with little kids know that this is not possible all the time.
What do you do, when there is no sitter?
So, we improvise. Every friday night we rent a movie (sometimes I pick from Netflix) we have wine, and we enjoy the silence. Sometimes I get my toes done while we watch our movie. Sometimes we just watch the movie. And yes, sometimes our movie is interrupted several times by little voices that want to get a peek at the latest avenger movie.
But we have fun and we have alone time. We sit and do something that takes us away from the everyday problems. We don’t talk about problems, bills, or schedules. It’s nice. We just talk and sometimes we don’t talk and I feel like we’ve become zombies. We do what we need.
Now, don’t get me wrong. A couple of weeks ago we went to watch Avengers Infinity War at a great movie theater and we had lunch and then stopped for some dessert. It was wonderful. We even snuck into Marshalls for some quick shopping. I had a great time and so did my husband, but it is not every weekend that we have someone that can stay with the boys, so we improvise.
Why do we improvise?. Because we need to, because it is fun. Because I love my husband and I would rather spend time at home watching a movie with him then to sit waiting and hoping for that Date night.
Why is an alternative important?
Marriage s hard. It is so hard. But it can also be super wonderful. The thing about marriage is that you have to work at it. You won’t be able to just have a great marriage by waking up every morning and hoping for the best. No, you have to work, you have to show up, you have to show your husband that he is important, that you appreciate him, that you are happy with your marriage. It is so easy to complain. So easy to get carried away by our everyday stresses. Both at work and at home. It is so easy to just throw all of the negative out and have it come across as if our life situation is an unhappy one.
Here are some things to start rethinking your relationship
1 Why are you together?
2 What makes you happy when you are together?
3 What makes you feel like you can’t live without your husband?
4 What one thing does your husband do that makes you feel special?
5 What do you do for your husband to let him know you appreciate them?
6 How do you work as a team?
7 Why do you stay together?
8 What makes your relationship special?
9 What helps you to keep focused on your husband when things get hard?
10 What do you do together to feel like you are still dating each other?
Here are some date night ideas
1 movie night
2 late dinner time
3 drinks on the deck
4 dance party
5 sports bar
You should know that I love my husband, my married life, all of it! My marriage is everything to me. I got lucky and found that kind of husband that makes you feel very special. But our life is not perfect. It is like that of everyone else. We have problems and make mistakes. The thing that matters is that we decided that we are committed to each other, no matter how hard things get.
Your marriage will not be perfect, but it is worth fighting for. That person that you married that you love is still sitting right across from you. So focus on the positive, think of all the good, look at your kids and remember why you are married. Then make the commitment to make this the best marriage ever! Do the best that you can everyday to appreciate each other and the Happiness will come.
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