Who are you?
Remember that you are important too. It is easy to forget and to put yourself last on most days, but you should give yourself time and value. There are times that you need to put yourself first.
The question who are you, is a quote from Alice in Wonderland by Lewis Carroll. This is my absolute favorite scene from Alice in Wonderland. She’s lost, scared, tired, over it, and then she stumbles onto the Caterpillar. The crazy little wise character that questions her and makes her stop and think. See at this point Alice seems to have gotten mixed up with too many different types and seems to have forgotten who she is. But, did remember who she was before? Do you remember that you are important? Do you remember what makes you, you?
How I remembered who I was
This week as I was going through my Instagram feed I came across a motivational quote from someone, it read, “ she remembered who she was, and that changed everything “. This struck a chord with me. See, like all of you I too have had some hard times in the past. Well, because no one is perfect. We all make mistakes and our lives get flipped around and next thing you know we are lost. So we look for ourselves elsewhere. We lose our identity, self esteem, vision, self care, and next thing you know… Who are you?
Sometimes the Past becomes the Present
For me I would say the last two years have been rough. I forgot who I was. I was sad and angry and irritable all the time. And last November I said no more. I decided who the important people were in my life and decided to invest my time and live with them. These were the people who were with me through my worst and at my best. The ones I knew were more than just friends. I focused on them and myself. I remembered I was a mom. A fun mom, and that’s who I wanted to be for my kids. Not sad and cranky mom. And what had actually happened was that I remembered who I was and everything changed!
My mom took me to get my hair done, I went shopping with my husband, my brother reminded me I wasn’t alone. I got myself together started my new blog and haven’t looked back. Now I know who I am and I remember that I am important, a mom, wife, sister, an aunt. I’m fun and crazy and get myself into trouble all the time. A stay at home mom that hates cleaning but loves to homeschool. I read and knit and love to bake as well as going to Disney and I am a therapist who left my job to be home with my babies. And I want to blog. I want to share and teach and encourage. This is who I am. I remembered!
“And that’s when everything changed”
This is when I started taking care of myself again. I used my makeup and I fix my hair ( most days anyway) and try to appreciate my life and how much I love everything that God blesses me with daily. I focus on the positive things ahead of me and try to not think about the bad things that have already passed and I stay away from negative people and focus on those relationships that are most important to me. Focusing on the Word of God also helps me.
What about you? What are you going to do to make yourself feel better today? How will you remember who you are and what makes you feel important.
Here are some ideas to help get you started.
1 – Make a list of the things that you really love to do
2 – Go and get your hair done and get a pedi/mani too
3 – Buy yourself a brand new outfit that makes you feel pretty
4 – Start a Journal and write about you
5 – Take a class on something that you would love to do
6 – Plan a trip with your family
7 – Go and get some coffee/tea and enjoy some time to yourself.
You need to do some things to help you feel like you are back. Things that are important to you that will help you to remember who you are. Things that will encourage you to do the things that you love doing for yourself. As moms we all put our families first, but there are times that we need to remember how important we are to others and to be able to help them we need to be able to feel at our best at all times.
Remember that you…
- are important.
- you are loved.
- and you are needed.
Please, leave a comment telling me what you do for yourself, what you do to make yourself feel good and important. How do you pamper yourself?
Scroll down to read an excerpt from Alice in Wonderland by Lewis Carroll.
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Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland, by Lewis Carroll
The Caterpillar and Alice looked at each other for some time in silence: at last the Caterpillar took the hookah out of its mouth, and addressed her in a languid, sleepy voice.
‘Who are you?’ said the Caterpillar.
This was not an encouraging opening for a conversation. Alice replied, rather shyly, ‘I — I hardly know, sir, just at present — at least I know who I WAS when I got up this morning, but I think I must have been changed several times since then.’
‘What do you mean by that?’ said the Caterpillar sternly. ‘Explain yourself!’
‘I can’t explain myself, I’m afraid, sir’ said Alice, ‘because I’m not myself, you see.’
‘I don’t see,’ said the Caterpillar.
‘I’m afraid I can’t put it more clearly,’ Alice replied very politely, ‘for I can’t understand it myself to begin with; and being so many different sizes in a day is very confusing.’
‘It isn’t,’ said the Caterpillar.
‘Well, perhaps you haven’t found it so yet,’ said Alice; ‘but when you have to turn into a chrysalis — you will some day, you know — and then after that into a butterfly, I should think you’ll feel it a little queer, won’t you?’
‘Not a bit,’ said the Caterpillar.
‘Well, perhaps your feelings may be different,’ said Alice; ‘all I know is, it would feel very queer to me.’
‘You!’ said the Caterpillar contemptuously. ‘Who are you?’
Which brought them back again to the beginning of the conversation. Alice felt a little irritated at the Caterpillar’s making such very short remarks, and she drew herself up and said, very gravely, ‘I think, you out to tell me who you are, first.’
‘Why?’ said the Caterpillar.
Here was another puzzling question; and as Alice could not think of any good reason, and as the Caterpillar seemed to be in a very unpleasant state of mind, she turned away.
‘Come back!’ the Caterpillar called after her. ‘I’ve something important to say!’
This sounded promising, certainly: Alice turned and came back again.
‘Keep your temper,’ said the Caterpillar.
‘Is that all?’ said Alice, swallowing down her anger as well as she could.
‘No,’ said the Caterpillar.
Alice thought she might as well wait, as she had nothing else to do, and perhaps after all it might tell her something worth hearing. For some minutes it puffed away without speaking, but at last it unfolded its arms, took the hookah out of its mouth again, and said, ‘So you think you’re changed, do you?’
‘I’m afraid I am, sir,’ said Alice; ‘I can’t remember things as I used — and I don’t keep the same size for ten minutes together!’