Limiting Beliefs, what are they and what do they have to do with my fears ? Can I change my limiting beliefs and my fears? These are questions we all wonder when faced with hard moments, but let’s start at the beginning.
What are negative thoughts or limiting beliefs?
So what are these negative thoughts and ideas that are holding you back from doing what you want to do and creating that life that you imagine.
Whether it be a CEO, a clean house, a new degree, or maybe learning to ride a bike? How do you conquer those fears?
Limiting beliefs are a state of mind or belief about yourself that restricts you in some way. These thoughts are often negative and false things that you start to believe about yourself over time.
When we start out we tend to believe that we are invincible. However, quickly over time, we learn that this is not the case. In fact we fail at things. We all do, it is a natural part of life, we hit roadblocks, things get harder, and we are forced to challenge ourselves in different ways. Then we begin to believe that we are good at some things and a failure at others.
It is always easier to believe the lies than the truth
It is much easier to start to believe that perhaps we aren’t good at certain activities because they don’t come natural to us. They are difficult. Perhaps, math, or public speaking. These are things that aren’t easy to everyone so because they are hard we convince ourselves that we can’t do them. (More on this later)
This will often lead to negative self talk.
Have you ever noticed how we can be really mean with our inner dialogue. In fact we are harder on ourselves than we are on others.
When it comes to someone else maing a mistake, we will often encourage them to keep going. However, when we fail we will say horrible and mean things to ourselves and continue to believe them.
That is why when you catch yourself saying mean things, it is imperative that you stop and reframe your words. For example, instead of “you loser, how could you mess up” try “wow that was really hard, I totally messed up but I bet I can try again and do it better”. Instead of “you will never be able to figure this out” try “let’s break this into smaller steps and take them one at a time until we figure it out.”
This takes time and real effort. Once you get the hand of it, it will become easier to spot and easier to change.
Wait, can you change what you already believe?
Yes! The good news is that you can, you do not have to stay stuck in the rut that you feel that you are in.
Whether it is about you or the world around you, you can change the way that you think or see things.
Let me explain…
A limiting belief is a belief about yourself that restricts you in some way.
Simply put they are lies about yourself that you have chosen to believe as truths.
For example, let’s say that you are afraid of public speaking. Somewhere, something happened that made you afraid to get up in front of people. A task that isn’t easy to do at all. As we dig deeper into where this fear is coming from, we learn that when you were little you were in a play and when it was time to shine, you forgot your lines. You were embarrassed and convinced yourself that you were not a public speaker.
One bad moment does NOT equal a truth
However, that wasn’t true. You had a bad moment that probably caused some negative reactions. You chose to protect yourself and over time developed a fear of getting in front of people. In adulthood, you simply say, I am not a good public speaker.
This is how Confidence Coaching works. You work together to understand what your limiting beliefs are as well as what are the fears that caused them. From their you set goals to change your mindset to help you move forward and break through the barriers.
Now, when it is time to get promoted, you will have no problem making the make it or break it presentations. You will be confident and self assured resulting in a better job and a happier lifestyle for you and your family.
Being fearful of things is natural. Holding on to untrue fears is a hindrance that you can break through as you build that confidence.
You’ve been asking, and clearly if you are still here you want to know.
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